Red buttons and values

Sometimes we are “triggered” by situations. This leads to an instant emotional reactivity, the intensity of which may seem surprising or inappropriate, with hindsight.

What happens in these situations of emotional hyper-reactivity?

Something “triggers” us, immediately setting in motion our instinctive governance, the one that is responsible for our survival. In other words, the answer does not drag!

Then, things unfold, according to 3 types of scenarios illustrated above:
Scenario 1 : we do not do anything in particular, and things evolve over time.Scenario
2: we activate a mental switch, and the stress signal gradually decreases
Scenario 3: we realize that something is happening, before we arrive at the very top of the stress ladder and we activate a mental switch.

The impact of stress, particularly in terms of energy consumption, is proportional to the area under the curve of each scenario. It is therefore more ecological for us to be in scenario 3!

Good news, switching mentally is learned and worked on through daily training.
Step 1 : realize that we have started the climb of the ladder, that we have left our state of calm
Step 2 : identify what triggers us, asking ourselves: what value is affected?, on which “red button” was pressed?, what need is not satisfied?
Step 3: trigger a mental rocking exercise to return to our calm, gain height
Step 4 : learn from the situation, and train, to be more and more able to move from scenario 1, to scenario 2, then to scenario 3.

To go further: Inference scale